Why Does Your Ex Still Text You?
Breakups are tough enough, but it's even tougher when your ex keeps on texting with you after the breakup. Find out what it means, and whether you can use this type of contact to actually get your ex back.
Texting...texting...texting... while you were dating it went on all day long. But once you broke up? You figured all contact with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend would come to a grinding halt.
But hey, what if your ex hasn't stopped text-messaging you? What does it mean when your ex still texts even after the relationship has ended?
Usually there are two possible scenarios. In one, you were the one who initiated the breakup. Your ex is texting you because he or she is trying to keep the relationship alive. They want the chance to get back together, and that's why they're blowing up your phone all the time.
In the other scenario, your boyfriend or girlfriend broke up with you first. And not surprisingly, guess what?
Your ex is text-messaging you for the exact same reason. They're looking for contact. He or she is trying to keep the door open... they're not prepared to lose you just yet, and don't want to cut all the ties between you and your past relationship.
Your Ex is NOT Texting You Just To Say Hello
Let's get one thing straight: your exboyfriend or exgirlfriend is not sending you a text-message just to say hi. They're not "checking up on you" or writing just to "see how you're doing". No, your ex's intentions are much more self-centered than that.
Your ex is looking for information. They're checking up on you, while still trying to give you small reminders of themselves. A text-message is a less-invasive way of reaching out. Your ex won't outright tell you they miss you (unless they want you back), but they're trying to send the message of: "Hey, don't go anywhere just yet".
Breaking up is scary. Even though you might be on the receiving end of getting dumped, your ex boyfriend or girlfriend probably isn't 100% sure of things either. For this reason, they're keeping their options open. In order to do this, they need to make sure YOU don't move on before they get the chance to.
Keep in mind, this doesn't necessarily mean your ex is ready to get back together. They might not be thinking of reversing the breakup at all. But at the same time, they like the option of being able to still reach out, talk to you, and possibly even see you. And this is because they're still on the fence about whether the breakup is temporary or permanent.
Should You Reply To Your Ex's Text Messages?
When it comes to handling texts from an ex boyfriend or girlfriend, it depends on your overall intentions. If your ultimate goal is to get your ex back? You'll want to keep your hand close to your chest, and not reveal too much by texting them back.
By ignoring an ex's text-messages - at least for a while - you're sending the message that you're busy doing other things, and hanging out with other people.
Your ex will panic, because he or she will instantly believe those other things are more important than them. And if you're trying to get your ex back? This can be a very good thing.
Making your ex uncertain and uncomfortable as to what you're doing (and who you're with) is a critical part of getting them to want you back. If you're tired of playing back and forth text-message games with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend, you need to learn which methods and techniques will help get them back... and which ones will only keep your breakup going forever.
Above everything, you can't get your ex back until you've adapted a step by step plan. Don't try to wing it, and don't try to fly by the seat of your pants. Always know exactly what you're doing next, and exactly when you should be doing it.
What Does it Mean When Your Ex Still Texts You?
Above everything else, it means your ex is lonely. He or she is probably experiencing a lull in their new single life, and most of all, your ex is thinking about you.
Loneliness is the first step in getting your ex to miss you. Before you broke up, you were a big part of each other's lives. Now... there's something missing. There's a hole where you used to be, and your ex is looking to fill that hole with something. And when the hole doesn't get filled? They reach out the most familiar way they know how: by text-message.
That said, there are ways of manipulating your current situation so that your ex wants you back. This includes not only the messages you get on your phone, but also your Facebook or MySpace page.
You can use these social networks to both make your ex jealous, and get them to need to call you. Learn the exact methods and techniques necessary for doing this, and you'll be one step closer to reconciliation with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend.